Writing and then subsequently publishing a book is a long, alternately torturous and rewarding experience that teaches you things about yourself you’d never realized before. Here are a few lessons I picked up during the life-affirming, humbling process of writing my first published novel.
1. Having the power of life and death over fictional characters does not make you a god
There’s something about writing that makes you feel invincible — when it’s going well, at least. The act of creation is startlingly addictive and deliciously empowering. But being the supreme overlord of a fictional world doesn’t mean you don’t need things like food and sleep. One cannot function on coffee and dreams alone. You have to take care of yourself, even when the muses are clamoring for your attention.
2. Your inner perfectionist might just be your worst enemy
Imagine the sounds of nails scraping along a chalkboard. Sometimes writing a first draft feels a lot like that. You look at the drivel you’ve plopped on the page and your teeth hurt because it’s so bad. That’s okay. It’s allowed to be bad. I had to learn to give myself permission to be downright awful no matter how badly I wanted to get things right on the first try. Revision is your friend. Revision will save you. But it can’t if you never finish the first draft.
3. The shower is an incubator for good ideas
Foiled by writer’s block? Hop in the shower.
Hit a plot snag? Hop in the shower.
Words won’t come out right? Hop in the shower.
Starting to smell because you’ve done nothing but write and eat Cheetos for 4 days? Hop in the shower.
4. Sometimes the best thing you can do is not write
When I was struggling with a pivotal scene in The Girl at Midnight that takes place in the Fifth Avenue branch of the New York Public Library, I put down my pen and went to the actual building I was writing about. I didn’t write. I had my emergency notebook just in case but I spent my time really experiencing the building’s beautiful architecture and watching the wild assortment of people who visit it. And then I went home and started that tricky scene anew and it clicked into place. Sometimes, you just need a break to jump start your mind.
5. Accepting criticism doesn’t mean applying every bit you receive to your work
While writing TGaM I had two critique partners. One of them hated my prologue. The other loved it. One of them adored the first chapter in which we see Ivy’s POV narration (she’s the best friend of Echo, the book’s chief protagonist). The other detested it. One of them approves of Caius’ hair style (a little shaggy but still sexy). The other insisted he needed a haircut. You will never please everyone. There will be times when criticisms you receive from trusted sources are in direct opposition to one another. And that’s okay. Learning to accept these opposing points of view gracefully while still trusting your gut is a vital skill to develop.
There are other things I leaned during the writing process (lactose-free milk is a touch too sweet for blueberry tea, eating a burrito while crying over your manuscript at 4 o’clock in the morning is a decision you’ll later regret, you can’t listen to the evil Smurf that lives inside your heard that insists you’ll be a failure because that Smurf is wrong and can go to hell), but these are the lessons I know I’ll hold closest to my heart as I wrap up this trilogy (it’s a trilogy!) and go forth into the wild blue yonder.
Melissa Grey was born and raised in New York City. She wrote her first short story at the age of twelve and hasn’t stopped writing since. After earning a degree in fine arts at Yale University, she traveled the world, then returned to New York City where she currently works as a freelance journalist. To learn more about Melissa, visit melissa-grey.com and follow @meligrey on Twitter.