It feels personal.
It’s almost impossible not to take it personally.
But it’s not personal.
This is one of those posts where I’m blogging about something that everyone knows, but knowing it doesn’t make it easier to behave accordingly. It’s one thing to know it, it’s another thing to live it.
We all know rejection is not really personal. It’s not. How could it be, the people rejecting you don’t even know you? Agents and editors and reviewers are just doing their jobs, why should we get so angry at them for not seeing what we see in our own work?
And yet knowing that only makes dealing with rejection just a little tiny, measly bit easier.
There is still so much vitriol out there on the Internet for so-called “legacy” publishers and agents and the traditional publishing industry, and let’s be honest, a lot of that is ill will generated by all those queries and manuscripts that were rejected or went unanswered.
But look – I’ve been there! I received those rejections, I’ve felt those pains. It’s perfectly normal to get mad. And that anger can lead to some great productivity. It makes you want to show the doubters and to keep getting better.
Just don’t let that anger be permanent. Channel it into creating something positive instead of letting it fester into a perpetual sneer.
We all know this. So let’s all try harder to put it into practice.
How do you channel your rejection frustration?